Have you ever noticed that most rewards are "stuff"? Little junky toys from the Dollar Store, a certificate that will get crumpled, some knick-knack you have to find a place for and then dust for eternity. Or food - cookies, candy, gum, doughnuts. "You did a good job, now eat something really bad for you."
As I've worked on de-cluttering my home (and gotten rid of 75% of their toys) I'm less and less inclined to bring junk back into the house. And we're working really hard on eating more wholesome foods so many "treats" are out.
Top this with the fact that we're really buckling down on learning chores, skills and responsibilities and my children can be heard to say, "What will I get? What will my reward be?" Oh, what an awful mother I am to have trained them thus!
I've been trying to find ways to motivate and encourage these new behaviors, without undermining the cleanliness of the home and health of the family.
Thus far we've used the Bean Jar and warm "thank yous." We try to take the time to inspect the job done and provide lots of compliments and meaningful praise (not just "good job"). I'm also trying to give them an inner sense of satisfaction in that they are contributing to the peace of our home and helping to create Zion. They don't really care about that though. I'm also trying to show them the practical side of doing their work daily (and cheerfully) - they have more free time! It took them 15 minutes today to pick up the play room, dust everything including the cleaning fan, and vacuum. It used to take an hour or two. They sort of get this, but it's still not enough for them.
I'm wondering if you all have any great ideas on how to reward, motivate, encourage, etc in meaningful ways. Things that will teach, not just provide a temporary happiness. Ways to find the deeper meaning in work and service and order.