So here’s a confession, I’m a girl. I was never a boy nor will I ever be one. But I am currently raising four boys. And I have no idea how boys think. They are foreign to me. Sometimes I look at them and can’t figure out how their brains came up with whatever behavior/game/idea they just displayed/played/told me. Truly. They think differently. They react differently. They are different. Some days I’ll ambush my husband when he comes home to tell him all about the crazy things his sons did, to which he’ll reply, “So? What’s weird about that?” Huh? It’s weird because a girl would NEVER think of that.
I’ve always wanted an Owner’s Manual for Raising Boys. Then I was given the opportunity to review Raising Real Men: Surviving, Teaching and Appreciating Boys by Hal and Melanie Young as a part of the Timberdoodle Blogger Review Team and I think it’s as close as I’m going to get! I have had this book on my list of “to read” for years and now that I’ve read it I’m sorry I waited so long.
Written by conservative Christian homeschooling parents of 6 boys and 2 girls, this book was full of funny anecdotes, real life example and practical ideas. Over and over again I found myself saying, “Hey honey, listen to this”. In fact, he left the room several times because he couldn’t get his own work done with me interrupting him every two minutes. Reading this book was like light bulb after light bulb going off. “Oh, so THAT’S why!” “Okay, NOW I understand.”
Some ideas I had heard before, some were completely new to me. For example, the Youngs discuss how boys are born with the desire to be leaders. It’s how God made them…because one day they will be in charge of their families, their employees, their community. They state, “We’ve got to teach them how to submit to authority without destroying their leadership.” This put disobedience and their often challenging behavior in a whole new light.
As a mother of boys, I highly recommend this book. It has changed how I view my sons and helped me create a better vision for how I want to raise them. I feel like I understand ‘boyness’ just a little better. This book will stay on my shelf for years to come, and I know I’ll reference it often. Along with Last Child in the Woods and Boys Adrift, this should be required reading for all parents of boys.
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As a member of Timberdoodle's Blogger Review Team I received a free copy of Raising Real Men in exchange for a frank and unbiased review.